Building vs. Dividing Community
After any tragic event, a sense of community or togetherness is essential for helping individuals feel supported and cope with their reactions to traumatic events. In addition to persons feeling sadness or numbness related to a traumatic event, people can also experience anger or rage. While these feelings have a place in the grieving process, attention should be paid to acts of aggression that might thwart building a feeling of community. An individual might look to express hostility towards others that had nothing to do with the traumatic event. Such actions divide the community, promoting distrust and irrational hate that hamper the healing process. Building a sense of community can be fostered by:
- Being aware that people experience different reactions to traumatic events.
- Reaching out and providing support by listening to others, giving them space for voicing their feelings. It's healthy to share feelings and reactions.
- Respecting a person's need to spend time alone, too.
- Helping each other with everyday tasks where possible, i.e. run errands, share a meal, pick up mail, care for a pet, etc.
- Consider organizing informal group activities (e.g., a brown-bag lunch). Such activities can provide a forum for support.
- Helping persons connect with supportive resources on campus and in the community.
- Managing feelings of anger and rage, not by taking them out on others, but through activities such as exercise, talking to a friend, keeping a journal.
- Organizing and participating in fund raising and blood drives to support relief efforts.
- Organizing and attending campus forums on the meaning of the tragedy in our world, country, and community.